Glossary | Translating Recovery

Rage vs Anger(RAYJ ver-sus ANG-er): The difference between uncontrolled fury often from past hurt (rage), and a valid emotional response to current situations (anger). Rage is an accumulation of past experiences in which one has not expressed how they were feeling. Often-times suppressing the healthy expression of one's feelings (anger) will lead to an eruption (rage). During these eruptions one often is giving an accumulation of all the unexpressed past feelings, causing one to over-exaggerate the response. Anger is information provided by perception that signals one is having their boundaries crossed or they are being abused, physically or emotionally.
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After years of suppressing my anger whenever my boundaries were violated, I eventually erupted in rage over minor things—realizing later it wasn't about that small issue, but the accumulation of unexpressed feelings from the past.
Reactor vs Actor(ree-AK-ter ver-sus AK-ter): The difference between reacting out of past programming vs consciously acting in the present.
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I'm learning to be an Actor rather than a Reactor, making choices based on my present needs rather than past traumas.
Reparenting(ree-PAIR-uhn-ting): The process of providing oneself the guidance and nurturing missed during childhood.
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Through Reparenting, I'm learning to provide for myself the love and guidance I didn't receive as a child.